Its been a while since I posted. I’ve been trying to find good answers for the dreaded friend zone issue. There’s a group of individuals who constantly end up as friends with people they want to be in a relationship with. If you are currently facing this problem, this is the post for you.

Signs that you are being friend zoned.

1.) He/She doesn’t dress up when hanging out with you.

Any one with sexual interest in the other party would bother to at least look decent during dates.

2.) He/She keeps asking you for favors.

Eg: Helping them fix something or accompany them on boring tasks. An interested party would only want your heart and attention, they wouldn’t want to trouble you with their personal matters.

3.) He/She keeps mentioning about someone of the opposite sex.

This is quite obvious, if they are really interested, they would talk about you instead.

4.) He/She tries to bring along friends during dates.

Isn’t this clear?  They don’t want to spend time alone with you. But then again, some people like crowds. Take note whether you are given special attention during these outings.

5.) He/She introduces you as “Friend”, “Brother” or “Bestie”.

Basically they are trying to tell others you are just a friend, nothing else.

6.) He/She only asks you out when they are extremely bored.

If they had better plans, they will go ahead without you. This happens when you are too available for them, thus being made used, just like friends.

7.) There’s no physical contact between you guys.

Eg: loving hugs and kisses. Lovers touch each other don’t they?

8.) They reveal too much about themselves to you ( too soon ).

Most people would keep their ugly secrets from the person they like. If they tell you too much, they are probably not bothered about how you look at them. After all, they aren’t interested in a relationship with you.

How did you end up in the friend zone?

Whatever the reason is, it sucks to be friend zoned. Below are the things you might have messed up and landed you in the friend zone.

- Being overly nice too early

- Spending too much money on them before getting together

- Giving them too much attention and being too available. Eg: replying all their calls

- Telling them you have loads of friends of the opposite sex ( basically telling them you are ok being friends )

- Being too compromising and agreeing to whatever they say

- Acting like a buddy

- Listening to them talk all the time

- Being too comfortable thus losing sexual tension

So how do you actually get out of the dreaded friend zone?

From my personal experience and research, there’s no fool’s proof way of getting out of this situation. Especially if you have been friends with the other party for way too long. Both of you might have started out liking each other. But because nobody took the right approach, it became too comfortable to hang out as friends. It then becomes awkward to ask for a relationship which might doom the friendship.

I understand some of you might be extra careful in choosing your partner. You might want to test out the level of compatibility before investing your emotions. If that’s the case, don’t blame the other party for thinking you are not interested in a romantic relationship. If you keep ending up in the friend zone, the problem might be you. Perhaps you are afraid to fall in love?

Here are some tips to get you out of the friend zone

- Physical contact

Couples can behave like close friends sometimes but the difference lies in physical contact. Try to get more physical with your friend and observe their reaction. A gentle loving hugs like how you would hug your lover at the end of dates would be nice. Also, stay close to them while walking and grab their hands when crossing the road. Try to make this like a friendly gesture. If they are comfortable with it, you are on the right track. For the guys, you might want use some of moves in this video below

- Hanging out with other potential partners and talking about them

This is a good way to get them jealous as, you (The so-called best friend) ain’t giving them all the attention now . This is a win win method as you can test their level of interest, even if they are totally not interested in you, there’s still backup. By doing this, you also become a challenge and they will figure out ways to win your heart over the other person. Out of jealousy, they will experience weird emotions and might fall for you unknowingly.

- If they friend zoned you, treat them like a friend

To get out of friend zone, you got to show them you will only treat friends like friends. Slowly remove all previous nice treatments while telling them more about the new person you are seeing. Ignore some of their calls and stop being there for them all the time.  Start asking them for favors and if they are more than willing, its a sign they eager to get you back.

- Look good

If you haven’t been dressing up for your friend, you got it all wrong. Close friends would hang out without dressing up and that kills attraction. Unless you want to remain as friends, you got to start attracting them by looking your best when dating. If they start taking notice and praise you a lot, it’s a good sign.

If everything goes well, your friend should be calling and dating you more. When they start to ask for more of your attention and show strong signs of interest, it’s time to make your move.

You might want to find a romantic setting to express how you feel about them. Try not go too direct but instead hint on how wonderful if would be if you guys are together. Ask for a kiss by telling your friend you always wanted to know how it feels to kiss him/her.

If you tried everything but your friend rejects you, its time to move on. I would suggest not wasting another second on those who friend zoned you.  If you are given equal treatment, you can still consider keeping a friend. I don’t know about you, I certainly couldn’t stand the sight of seeing someone I invested so much in, leaving for another person. If you are looking for a relationship, stay focused on your objective and stay away from those mistakes that can land you in the friend zone

All and best and hope you liked the post

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